…for a meaningful number of people, especially those who start dieting when they don't really need to, the dieting comes first and the extra body fat follows, years later, as a consequence of the restriction-recovery cycle repeating itself. They didn't get fat and then diet. They dieted and got fat.

Welcome to the Modality Mismatch

You picked a training system designed for adaptation.

You underfuelled it with rules designed for appearance.

Something is going to break.

One perfectly fuelled session doesn't compensate for systematic underfuelling. Yet some individuals maintain both defict and deceit with their perfect workout meals posts, all while rules around fuelling get stricter, questions multiply, and restrictive eating patterns continue.

Years of restrictive dieting haven't given you lean and muscular. They've given you metabolically suppressed with escalating anxiety and control around food. And the path forward isn't what you think.

Wanting results and being coachable are two entirely different things. Many people hire coaches seeking transformation but struggle with the very process that creates change. Understanding what makes someone truly coachable—and recognising common patterns that hinder progress—helps determine whether you're ready for coaching or might benefit from addressing other areas first.